All posts by Kathie Amidei

Do you remember your First Communion?

This year 61 of our children celebrated, with our community, their First Holy Communion. From my vantage point at the altar, prior to distributing communion, I watched their faces. The children were so excited and anxious, anticipating this moment for which they had been preparing for two years! I contemplated how Eucharist would sustain them in their journey throughout maturing personhood. I reflected on the many people I have been with, bringing them their last communion, Viaticum, derived from Latin meaning “food for the journey.” When food no longer nourishes the physical body, Viaticum, the last earthly Eucharist, prepares us for our journey home to be with God.

The deeper meaning of Eucharist is something we grow into over a lifetime.

Theologian, Rosemary Haughton’s thoughts about Eucharist, poetically expressed, evoke for me the reality to grow into as we begin to understand the mystery of God’s love for us. She wrote:

Remembering is now. Remembering is not going into the past. It is bringing the past into now, to change it. The Eucharist is remembering. That night at supper Jesus was remembering many things, because he was needing something to break through. He wanted it from his friends. He felt very alone- they didn’t understand- yet they were the only ones to share it with. They had come together to remember.

He had found a way, because he craved, needed, desired that union, and found a way through the simple things that lay under his hands.

At that moment divine love smashed through and transformed reality. Through sharing that revolutionized sign of food- food that makes bodies, food that makes people- he was one with them. They were his body and blood.

The gathering, the assembly, the body of Christ, the Church, sat at table, bodily one by one food, one of heart by one love. And he told them, he tells us, to do it again- to remember.

Century by century we try clumsily but faithfully, to remember. Not just on great days but as part of everyday life, like caring for children and growing a garden. In celebrating we change, the high days, the dull days, the sad days are changed, when the changed food changes bodies, changes a people into himself. This is what the Church is for- to consecrate- to be the place where ordinary things, are known for what they are -when we remember, and make God present. The Eucharist is remembering.

In passing on our Tradition of celebrating the Eucharist, we are giving our children the best food that can nourish them over their lifetime. It bequeaths the gift to live with the joy we know on our First Communion Day and strengthens us for challenges we face and brings meaning to the divine significance of our everyday lives. It is the food for the journey that will always bring us home.

A Bit of Awe and Wonder

“Ambassadors for Humanity.” I loved this description of the Artemis II astronauts. While I am not a space geek, this mission captured my mind and heart as the crew ventured farther into space than anyone in history and they shared their rich descriptions about our common home, Earth. They had a unique perspective that is impossible to duplicate from where we stand on this planet.

The astronauts were so articulate and insightful about the emotional experience of seeing Earth from deep space. Christina Koch, referred to Earth as “a ‘lifeboat’ in the darkness hanging undisturbingly in the universe, a tiny and fragile entity surrounded by the ‘blackness’ of space.” She emphasized that it wasn’t just the planet itself that struck her, but the vast “blackness around it” that highlighted our world’s isolation and need for care.

She also said, “Planet Earth—you are a crew,” suggesting that everyone on the planet is “inescapably, beautifully, dutifully linked.” She compared the fact that the astronauts depended on each other, as humanity, we depend on each other in our shared existence in the universe.

The space travelers urged unity and gratitude for the home planet, emphasizing that the experience deepened their perception of how special it is to be a human on Earth. Their collective message focused on the planet’s fragility and the inescapable bond shared by all humanity. The crew expressed that the “human experience” was the most extraordinary part of the mission. They urged global unity, with astronaut Jeremy Hansen, noting that while the science was incredible, the sight of a “tiny Earth” reinforced the value of supporting and loving one another.

As they circled behind the moon, contact was lost for 40 minutes. When the signal finally flickered back into life the voice of Christina Koch crackled back to mission control. “We will explore. We will build ships. We will visit again. We will construct science outposts. We will drive rovers, we will do radio astronomy, we will found companies. We will bolster industry, we will inspire… But ultimately, we will always choose Earth. We will always choose each other.”

Those who have traveled into space describe a profound appreciation of the uniqueness of Earth and that all humans share the planet together. The experience of seeing our planet surrounded by the blackness of space truly emphasized how alike we are, how the same things keep every single person on planet Earth alive.

Austin Glover, referred to Earth as a “spaceship” created for humanity, urging people to love God and their neighbors. While this was not a religious mission and little else was said about God, it sure sounded like they were describing what God created, who God is and what God does! I am grateful to these brave souls who reminded me what a gift it is just to be human on the planet Earth.

Jesus Prayer

One privilege of my ministry is meeting with families to help plan the funerals of their loved ones. I always learn something important from spending time with people during these sacred times in their lives. Recently we met with the family of Dave who I had not seen in many years. Their children grew up in our programs, but I had lost contact with them.

The first thing they wanted to share was a story. They said that many years ago Dave and his sister had a conversation about the fact she was having trouble praying, sharing that in the many words of her prayer, she was not connecting with God. She recalled Dave responded that in Family Program he had learned a prayer could be as simple as saying the name of Jesus, the person’s name you are praying for and close with the name of Jesus. So, she and Dave’s family had adopted that as a form of prayer in their life. It especially became a bond between the two grown siblings. She said, years later, as she sat with her brother while he was in hospice, this was how they prayed together, over and over again. Jesus. Dave. Jesus.

I hope you will not think less of me if I share that I don’t remember exactly teaching that prayer 30 years ago in Family Program. But I am sure we catechized about the power in the name of our God, Jesus Christ. The conversation reminded me to never underestimate what sharing faith from your heart can do in another person’s life.

It also reminded me of St. Theresa’s advice, “I (pray) like children who do not know how to read, I say very simply to God what I wish to say, without composing beautiful sentences, and He always understands me.” St. Theresa also is credited with advising, “Pray as you can, not as you can’t.” There are as many ways to pray as there are stars in the sky.

In Dave’s case, it was, as a friend affectionately called it, a “Jesus Sandwich.” Doesn’t this reflect what we hear in Scripture? “And whatever you ask in my name, that I will do…If you ask anything in my name, I will do it.” (John 14:13-14)

I think Dave’s sister was not believing her “Jesus Prayer” was a magical formula, but it was expressing her trust in Jesus and how she was lovingly entrusting her brother into God’s care. It is a commitment to live God’s will, even if it is not understandable to us in the moment. It is a prayer of surrender to God’s authority in our lives.

Dave learned something that he could have kept to himself. But he was a witness of faith by simply sharing the prayer he was given. The prayer from his heart became a lasting gift to others.

Jesus. Dave. Jesus. Rest in peace, Dave.

I Heard a Bird Chirp Today

One night last week I couldn’t sleep. So I got up way too early and went to my desk in my home office. I thought I may as well get some work done. To be honest, I was not happy as I sat in the dark with only the light from my computer, feeling chilly, and thinking this winter of short cold days is getting old. I was definitely thinking crabby thoughts. It was too early to get up but my mind was crowded with concerns about people I love, unresolved issues to be faced, the all too quickly passing of time, the lack of peace in the world…

The monkey chatter in my mind was interrupted by a sound that I didn’t expect in the cold dark winter morning. Through the window I faintly heard a bird chirp and I smiled. Daylight is on its way, the earth is moving toward light and warmth, my life is not a problem to be solved but a holy mystery to move through with trust and hope. A bird chirping in February was a graced call to remember this.

Sometimes one small thing can change everything.

Recently a book was published called Born Survivors. It is an inspiring story about three women, torn from their husbands, all sent to concentration camps. They were able to hide their pregnancies, which revealed would have meant immediate death to them and their unborn children. Despite unthinkable conditions and malnourishment, in the last days of Nazi Germany, they gave birth and the three babies, now in their 80’s, survive to this day.

There was so much about their stories that were heartbreakingly sad and unbelievably heroic, as well as a testimony to the human spirit and sacrificial love. But one scene especially stayed with me. One of the women said she saw her husband only once after they were taken prisoners. For a brief moment, from across the camp, they were close enough that she could hear him say to her, “Stay strong and only think good thoughts.”

That is remarkable. Experiencing the depth of cruelty humanity is capable of, he gave his wife and unborn child this gift of the call to goodness, in a loving thought that still inspires 80 years later.

Isn’t this how our God comes to us? In the bleakest times. In the cold lonely moments. In the one bird’s reminder of the turning of warmth and light. In a few words from someone who loves you to rise above malevolence.

May a bird chirp for you when the winter seems too long. May someone give you words of goodness to hold fast to in the world’s darkness. May these small and great miracles remind us of a God who loves us in the mundane state of tired crabbiness and will find a way to give us a lifeline of hope and find a shred of goodness for each other when we are most lost. 

Ineffable God

My brother gave a talk at his church. In it he said:

“I grew up on the East Coast and Midwest amongst parishes, schools, relatives, and holidays that were Catholic as far as the eye could see. It was a loving, if ineffable, God at the center of it all.”

My siblings and I were impressed with his word choice, “ineffable.” Our dad always had an appreciation of a good “word choice.” 😉

As I reflected on his description of our religious upbringing, I had to agree. We learned who God was through a kind of osmosis. Our parochial education and extended family kept us mainly in circles of people who all believed the same things and held the same world view, as well as the after-life possibilities of heaven and hell.

One thing we knew for sure: God was God. We thanked Him for our food before meals and for our blessings at bedtime. We worshiped Him on Sunday. We knew Jesus died an awful death on the cross for us. We loved His mother and she loved us.

The God that I grew up knowing was more mystery than definable. More known though sacrament and symbol than conversation in prayer. More caretaker than companion. This wasn’t all bad. As my brother said, we grew up believing, trusting and loving a God who loved us.

I looked up the definition of ineffable, “too great or extreme to be expressed in words.” It denotes qualities that transcend human comprehension. I think it is a good thing to believe that God is so holy and has a love for us that is so intense and beautiful it cannot be expressed in words. It signifies the respect we should have for the fundamental gap between the magnitude of the divine and the limits of human expression and comprehension.

Looking back, I do wish we had learned more about Jesus from reading and reflecting on Scripture. I think my relationship with Jesus has flourished more since I have learned this practice. I am grateful as an adult to live every day with an awareness of the Holy Spirit, the Paraclete, promised to be with me always. I believe the Holy Spirit guides me with gifts of knowledge, understanding, wisdom and courage, given to me at Baptism. I have learned these gifts are available for me to call upon every day.

More than anything, I am grateful that my faith was cultivated as a mystery of unfathomable love. It was a blessing lasting a lifetime. I just hope I have passed it on to those in my care so they will know whatever the question, our God will answer it with love though we may not have the vision to know or see it until we are finally home with our ineffable God.

November

November is a soulful spiritual month in the Catholic heart. How could it not be, when the first day recognizes saints and the second day remembers souls?

November begins with saints. We honor the men and women we believe are exemplars of lives well lived. They remind us, our life mission is simply to love God above all things in our own unique way. Like Saint Francis, who taught peace and simplicity. Saint Joseph, who demonstrated unmitigated devotion to Mary and Jesus. Saint Therese of Lisieux, who invited us to do little things with great love and who inspired Saint Teresa of Calcutta, who loved the dirty, dying poor as if each one was her precious child. Saint Maximilian Kolbe, who in the concentration camp said, “Let me take the place to die for this man. He has a family.” Or Saint Mary, Mother of God, who simply said, yes, her fiat, to love, no matter the cost.

The month moves into the second day, remembering the souls who we have known, loved and lost from this world. We stand with those who grieve, who so bravely move on though the way is difficult, the time disorienting and the nights lonely. They do it for the sake of those who are left. The bereaved embody what courage means – to know no light but move forward because all we have is the next step, the next day, and for the sake of the gift of life they still have.

The month moves forward darkening. The days become shorter. The air chills. The colors of October literally fall and we are faced with the reality of the memory of winter reawakening. Between us and summer, there are boots, driving in the snow and even shorter days. But as beings of hope we begin to open our mind and heart to the unique gifts of the coming season- holiday lights making up for the natural darkness, the wonder of a white snow filled morning, a cup of hot chocolate and the cozy lure of warm homes and the peace of restful long nights.

And just when you think, “Yikes, winter is going to be long and cold,” the secular world calls out and says, “Wait. Give thanks for all you have been given!” And we collectively, as a people, count our blessings. One by one we remember all we have been given- family who treasure us, home to shelter us, food to sustain us, friends to remind us to laugh. We give thanks for the Christian community who faithfully tell the story of a God who loved us so, born in poverty, with only the love of a young mother and a loyal stepfather to survive in this world. That is a God who exemplifies radical trust.

Finally, on the last day of this month we begin Advent, waiting in joyful hope to remember, above all else, God who loved us into being, lived so we can become saints here on earth and one day souls together in the Kingdom of peace and justice.

Know I wish you and your family the soul and grace of these days. May this Thanksgiving be a celebration of all God’s generous blessings in your life. 

We Stand on the Shoulders of Giants

The expression is attributed to Isaac Newton who wrote, “If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”

This metaphor expresses both humility and gratitude. Humility, reminding us what we achieve most often builds on what others contributed before us. It also conveys gratitude for those who came ahead of us for contributing to what matters to us today.

In our larger Catholic tradition, we “stand on the shoulders” of religious leaders, popes, prophets and theologians like Augustine or Aquinas, as well as exemplars like our beloved saints. And of course, above all else, the life and teachings of Jesus which was carried on by the apostles.

But in our local little part of the Church this expression came to mind as I feel both humbled and grateful beginning our fourth decade of Family Program.

I can’t help but look back now at the launch of Family Program that has grown over the last three decades. I witnessed it grow from 20 families in 1995 who met on bleachers in the gym, the only large space beside the church, which was in the basement of the school. Family Program began as a pilot idea to respond to the limitations of traditional afterschool classes for children, the model of religious education that dominated for two centuries.

As we look back, no doubt God has blessed the effort. And I reflect upon the myriad of people behind the scenes, taking care of hospitality, making coffee, setting up, cleaning up, volunteering to bring treats and teaching our children. Many served unselfishly for countless hours and never got applause or public thanks.

The recent loss of someone who contributed much to our little community brought this thought home to me. Our friend, Cindy Schlei, passed into eternal life recently. I thought of the pots and pots of coffee and hot chocolate she made for many years as we started the Family Program in the gym. I thought of the many hours she and her family set up and cleaned up, giving up their Saturdays to serve so we would be ready for Sunday. Great programs in a faith community most often happen because a multitude of people take to heart Jesus’ command to serve unselfishly. Most never receive praise or even recognition, but their generous hearts change the quality of what we give our children. Our faith formation community has been built on so many who contributed over the years, as catechists, group leaders, retreat chaperones, mission trip leaders, Bible Camp teachers, and coffee makers. I am humbled at how many people have given their time and talent for the good of the whole community. I am so grateful for each of them and every generous act they quietly gave to create the beautiful faith community we have today.

Open the Door

Have you wondered about our theme this year? Why, Open the Door, and to what? The theme is inspired by this being a special year! 2025 was officially proclaimed by Pope Francis as a Jubilee Year, also known as a Holy Year, which is a special year of grace traditionally occurring every 25 years.

The Jubilee Year & the Holy Door are deeply intertwined concepts in Catholicism. The Holy Door is a ceremonial entrance in each of the Vatican’s four major basilicas- opened only during Jubilee years. Pilgrims come to cross the threshold of these doors. The practice encourages Catholics to reflect on their journey of faith and place their trust in God’s promises. The Holy Door and the Jubilee Year serve as powerful reminders of God’s abundant mercy & forgiveness. It is a call for Catholics to embark on a spiritual journey of conversion, renewal and deeper communion with Christ.

Most significantly, the Holy Door can remind us, Jesus himself, is referred to as the “door” through which we are savedMay it encourage us to center our life to follow and be guided by Christ.

One thing that came to mind when I thought about our theme was a little story about a boy named Josh who had been bullied. By some grace he had the idea to respond by adopting one simple act, opening the door to fellow students. At first his gesture was not understood but in time, through doing this, he opened up relationships with his peers. Josh took opening the door literally and it opened the hearts of his classmates and changed the culture of the school. I began to reflect on how differently I feel when simply greeted by a smile or not. How would our families, our communities, our Church, our lives be changed by such simple things as a smile, a warm greeting, a kind word, or an open door?

The most important question is, will this theme have meaning to each of us? What doors is Jesus opening for you? What doors does Jesus call you to open?

This year’s theme is an invitation to open doors to opportunities and graces offered by Christ to us in any given day.

Bible Camp… Why it is Important and a Blessing to our Children

“Another week of Bible Camp in the books!” said Tasha Baures, who capably led our Bible Camp this year, with our dedicated Faith Formation staff Lea Boyd, Ann Grunwaldt, Debbie Kusch, Michelle Lukas and incredibly wonderful volunteers, especially Ann Fons, Jack and Maribeth Blankenheim, as well as many fabulous leaders of every age from middle school through our retired gifted pros.

A parishioner, whose children are in their 40’s, said to me that she sent her children to Vacation Bible School as it was known at the time, the only place it was offered, at the Lutheran Church.VBS has been a tradition in Protestant churches for decades. We Catholics are latecomers to this model of catechesis. But we are catching up quite well.

Often as Catholics, we gave prayer books, statues and medals as gifts. While these were, and are, great gifts, children were rarely gifted a Bible, and certainly Scripture was an afterthought in a catechetical lesson. We weren’t taught this is a library, preserving a legacy of our ancestors in faith and how it is a chronicle of Salvation History. We weren’t shown the beauty of the poetry of God’s Word. The biggest compliment I hear about a homily is “Father made it sound like the readings related to my life.” When actually everything in Scripture relates to our life! I believe that was the point of God’s Holy Spirit inspiring the writers. 

So, why is Bible Camp, as we call it today, valuable and important?

1.) It presents the narratives in Scripture as accounts that give us lessons for life today; the importance of being brave for our faith like in David and Goliath, reminding us how to listen to God and do hard things as Moses and of learning from the Master Teacher, Jesus, that the bonds of death are broken by his Resurrection.

2.) It presents these lessons of our faith through a joyful, vibrant methodology.

3.) If a child participates in most years of childhood, they have 50 Scripture stores in their minds and in their hearts laced with memories of warm relationships.

4.) It is an intergenerational experience, where all ages are learning and teaching, from preschoolers to octogenarians.

5.) It vitalizes our spirituality by combining song, story, art, games, memorization, beauty, nature, and snacks into a summer experience of learning and fun.

6.) It creates community. Relationships are formed between our Catholic school children and Family Program children, between new parishioners and longstanding members and between staff and volunteers.

7.) It is a leadership development program where middle school, high school and all ages of adults work side by side to catechize and share our faith.

8.) It deepens the knowledge, understanding and inspiration found in the Bible, God’s Living Word, meant to inspire us each and every day.

9.) It helps our children come to know our God who loves them dearly.

Bible Camp is something every parish should support, and every family should prioritize.

My 1st grade granddaughter was talking to her mom after Bible camp and asked, “Mom, are we Israelites?”

It was a great week. We all learned a lot. But I guess we have more work to do.😉 Hope to see you part of this wonderful week next year!

Habemus Papum

“We have a Pope.” As the white smoke came billowing out of the Sistine Chapel, everyone in the parish offices waited, as I am sure many of you did, for the announcement made from the balcony of St. Peter’s Basilica. And we met our new Pope Leo XIV.

We certainly have a God of surprises! An American citizen. A Peruvian citizen. An Augustinian friar. His chosen name, associated with Pope Leo XIII and a legacy of social justice. The Holy Spirit sent us someone we perhaps least expected, but most need.

I have led a series of discussions about this new leader in our Church. Here are some of the observations that surfaced:

1.) This pope is an unexpected gift to our Church! He is a leader who understands our American culture but has lived among the poor for two decades. His life experiences include both the blessings and challenges of those who are materially comfortable but may suffer from “time-poverty” and those who lack in basic human needs but are rich in trust in God.

2.) He desires to unite us in peace as a human family. I treasure his first words to the world in his “Urbi et orbi” blessing, “Peace be with you all.” In this, our new leader echoed the first words the Risen Christ spoke to his bewildered despairing disciples. Pope Leo XIV prayed that this peace would enter our hearts, reach our families and all people. The sentiments I heard repeated were how in need we are of a peacemaker and a leader who can unite our world that is divided in so many ways.

I think often of how our present culture is dividing families with different ideologies, spiritualities and priorities. I worry about, what I think of as, a “crisis of busyness.” Our families have so little unstructured time just to be with each other. I believe we will ultimately treasure, not what we have, but the time we have spent together. I know my heart is most at peace when I am with the people I love and when I am in prayer and fully trusting God with my life.

3.) Several people noted how he looked when he came out to greet us. They mentioned the emotion they felt they could read in his expressions of appreciation and love. One journalist described it as his “receptivity.” Several told me they were moved by his smile and “open-hearted” expression. If body language can be interpreted, he surely exuded humility and gratitude.  I felt a quiet serene warmth he held for us.

St. Augustine said, “Our heart is restless until it rests in you, O Lord.” In a culture that seems to be in a hurry to do more, have more, be more, the leader of our Church offered us to rest in the Peace of Christ. Our God longs for us to quiet ourselves and be open to that peace of heart. Thank you, Holy Spirit, for Pope Leo XIV!

Watch the video of Pope Leo XIV below to reflect with him, as Fr. Robert Prevost, on how St. Augustine’s teachings are still relevant in our lives today.